Surviving the holidays: Answers to “When are you going to have a baby?”
For many of us women, holiday parties and events will include conversations with the prying friend or family member asking questions about when we plan to have a baby. Depending on the inquisitor, you may choose to share or keep your choice to pursue fertility treatment private. Either way, the team at Center for Reproductive Health has compiled a few graceful (and perhaps humorous!) responses to get you through the small talk over eggnog.
DANCE AROUND THE ISSUE
- It’s a big decision and endeavor to have children. We are thankful for your support and will be sure to let you know when it’s appropriate.
- That’s a really great question. I wish I knew the answer.
- Don’t worry, we’re trying. Hopefully, it will happen eventually.
- I’m really not sure. It’s something we’re still trying to figure out.
- When the time is right, it will happen.
- Only God knows, and He hasn’t told me yet.
GO BLUNT OR GO HOME
- I don’t know. Maybe never. Until then, you should probably stop asking me.
- What answer could I give you so that you’ll stop asking?
- I’d rather not talk about it, thanks.
- That’s a rather personal question, don’t you think? Anyways, how’s your new job?
GOOD FUN & HUMOR
- As soon as I figure out how. Got any suggestions?
- When the time is right. My eggs are pretty picky.
- I already have one. (Then refer to your spouse or someone else)
- I don’t know, but I’m starting my list of baby-sitters now. Can I count you in?
- Well, not at least for another nine months.
SHARE THE REALITY
- Asking a question like that creates a lot of pressure on me/us. You can’t just snap your fingers and get pregnant, a lot of things have to come together at the right time.
- Having a child is one of the most important decisions in life, and making that decision takes a lot of time and thought. I can’t give you a simple answer to such a huge, life changing event.
- Did you know that 1 in 6 couples, who want to have a child, struggle with infertility? It’s more common than you think, so please be sensitive when asking that question.
- Actually, it’s interesting you ask because we’ve been trying for awhile now. I’ll keep you updated if we think it’s appropriate.
- We’re trying and seeing a fertility specialist. I’d rather not get into the details, but I appreciate the support.
Since your fertility is your business, you can choose what to share. If you’re feeling bombarded with questions, consider sharing your concerns with your partner and perhaps they can help you change the subject during uncomfortable conversations. At Center for Reproductive Health, you can connect with professionals and other local women who understand what you may be going through. We can help you obtain community or counseling services with fertility treatment.
If you have more questions, contact us today.